If You Can’t Seem To Move Forward- Here’s Why

By Caley Philipps June 17, 2015

Are your thoughts keeping your stuck? Often times, when we don’t know what’s wrong with us, the problem is exactly that, us. But how do we search for the answer if we don’t know where to start?

In my last therapy session, I was given an assignment. The supposed “fun” assignment was (spending virtual money).

Though I wasn’t having fun at all. It was making me feel bad. It was making me feel so awful and uncomfortable, that my only response was awkward laughter.

To find out why this was, I had to dig DEEP.

I sat with it.

Tuned in to the discomfort.

Listened to my body.

And I was totally curious about what this feeling was and what it wanted to tell me.

It completely clarified itself in this one simple word: shame.

Now I get that shame + laughter don’t usually go together.

But here’s the thing: I totally know what to do with shame. And, I had zero idea how to get myself to enjoy spending virtual money.

So, uncovering that shame was holding me back was an amazing gift.

And a total opportunity to get over this hurdle. Once and for all.

See it’s not that we feel something yucky, uncomfortable or scary in our bodies that’s the problem.

It’s that we run from these feelings. And judge the heck out of ‘em.

THAT’S what keeps us stuck.

Now I’m not saying you have to know what to do with shame.  You don’t.  (I didn’t always know)

Or that your yucky feeling is shame.  It might be. It might not.

But until you’re willing to know exactly what it is, how will you ever know what it needs?  Or, what to do with it?

Spiritually speaking, this is called, “being willing to see the truth.” And it’s kinda like bringing a knife to a gun fight. You gotta know what you’re dealing with to know what you need to be able to deal.

For me, what it really boils down to is listening. 

Listening to myself. My body. My wisdom. My gut. Especially when my body is saying “yikes!”

So now it’s your turn. Ask yourself how you handle those uncomfortable, painful, down-right-yucky moments? Do you turn into them?  Avoid ’em like the plague?  Or run like heck?

Your answer is full of insight into why you are exactly where you are. ❤️



*This post was originally published on Caley’s website, Caley Phillips. For more from Caley visit http://www.caleyphilipps.com.
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